You look in the mirror and all you see is a fraud. You see someone who doesn’t deserve the success they’ve achieved. You live in constant fear of being ‘found out’. You, my friend, are one of the millions of people who suffer from impostor syndrome. Maybe you were told to be humble and to not brag when you were growing up. Or, perhaps like me, you accomplished some amazing stuff that wasn’t understood or appreciated by your bosses and they reminded you of that frequently for years. No matter the cause, the belief that you’re a fraud in spite of all the amazing things you’ve accomplished, all the challenges you’ve overcome is simply bullshit.
Impostor syndrome is real…. how do you know if you have it? Well, if you’ve ever:
- Felt like you needed to work twice as hard so people don’t find you out as an “impostor” and all the additional praise and success only makes you work that much harder until you eventually burn out.
- Felt phony, felt the need to give answers you believe others want instead of an honest answer.
- Relied on charm because you felt your skills were inadequate and when praised you feel like it’s due to your charm and not your abilities.
- Avoided displaying any sort of confidence
….you might suffer from impostor syndrome.
So, what can you do to break free from the chains of feeling like a fraud?
- Start by simply saying thank you when you get a compliment
Don’t dismiss a compliment with self-deprecating talk. You earned it, accept it…plus, shrugging off a compliment is insulting to the one who gave it to you.
- Brag on yourself some
Nobody is going to toot your horn for you. If you don’t brag about yourself, nobody will.
- Accept that it is you…not luck, not fate, or good timing…that achieved what you achieved.
Be proud of what you’ve accomplished.
Start by doing these three things daily and soon you’ll break free from feeling like an impostor.